In chapter 7, John says "Most people allow their lives to simply happen to them. They float along. They wait. They react. And by the time a large portion of their life is behind them, they realize that they should have been more proactive and strategic."
I think we can all relate to this as most of us have been guilty of simply floating along reacting to everything that happens. But when it gets out of control and we feel the stress building up in our lives, we have to step back and look at our lifestyle systems.
What are Lifestyle Systems? It's kind of like systems in business, but for our own lives.
You see, most businesses cannot succeed without two things in place.
1.) A team of value adders that share a clear vision for the business.
2.) Systems in place so that every team member knows what is going on and customers know what to expect when they come in.
We can establish a similar gameplan in our lives. First, by taking the time to put down clear values that matter to you and your family. This starts by writing it down and reviewing it with everyone in the family. These can include:
- Dinners together during the weekday
- Sharing something that everyone is grateful for first thing during breakfast
- Doing at least 1 family hike per month
- Eliminating social media use after 8pm
- Sharing weekly chores
Besides the family system, you can also establish some personal systems in place:
- No answering emails or going on social media within the first and last 2 hours of the day (this is a game changer)
- Read 10 pages of a personal development book daily
- Listen to at least 10 minutes of a positive podcast daily
- Exercise for at least 20 minutes a day (a mindful walk counts!)
- Think of one thing you're grateful for before going to bed
- Volunteer your time once a month in a local organization
Every thought we have primes our behavior and the actions we take. If we fill our mind with toxic news daily, hang around people who complain about life extensively, join in those who gossip all the time, and carry on a sedentary life--by constantly justifying it with the "I don't have time" excuse--then life is going to run you and stress will continue to accumulate.
Instead, I encourage you to take charge.
Establish systems in your life. Although the structure seems apprehending at first, it actually allows for more freedom and much less stress when you know what's coming your way. If the first thing you do when you get up is check your email, you are priming yourself for the work that someone else has for you.
Instead take 10-30 minutes to yourself to meditate, pray, stretch, practice gratitude, go on a walk or journal. If you can't do it first thing in the morning, find a gap somewhere in the day to make this happen. This act alone can have a massive positive impact in your life.
Tony Robbins said: "If you don't have 10 minutes for yourself, then you don't have a life."
I'm curious- Are there any current lifestyle systems in your life that work really well? Or any you'd like to add?
"Every day, stand guard at the door of your mind, and you alone decide what thoughts and beliefs you let into your life. For they will shape whether you feel rich or poor, cursed or blessed.” -Jim Rohn