In my field, there is nothing more rewarding than witnessing a person's fitness transformation and success. Whether it’s weight loss, or seeing improvement on their recent blood panel, or simply just having a little more energy to win the day.
Hearing about people’s wins —as Marie Kondo would suggest— “sparks joy” in me and that’s what keeps me motivated as a coach.
Having 16 years under the belt in the industry, I got a chance to see plenty of victories, but also plenty of goals not achieved.
Everyone has their reasons why fitness dropped out of their priority list, and maybe it’s even for legitimate reasons. For 9 out of the 10 of those dropped goals though, the commonality is very clear.
Here are 6 reasons You’re Not Reaching Your Goals and how you can fix them:
1.) Taking Responsibility. Your life changes the moment you start taking responsibility for everything that happens to you. I’m not talking about placing guilt on yourself. We are responsible for our thoughts and behavior, whether deliberate or unintentional. Try to be accountable on how you respond to situations around you. Refrain from pointing fingers to other people or situations.
Accentuate the positive. Lean towards maintaining a positive attitude when appropriate. Have you ever noticed that people who don’t take responsibility for their actions are negative and cynical. It’s always someone else’s fault. They are perpetual victims. When you shift that focus from what is wrong to what can be done to make it right, your stress level drops and life changes for the better.
2.) Seeking Validation. Why is there such a need to share all of life’s fun highlight on social media nowadays? Most would not admit, but maybe, because there’s the validation factor from others.
I know I want to be acknowledged when Brazil wins a major soccer game, so I post about it in hopes to get support from all my Brazilian supporters/friends, all while hoping to also strike a cord on all my Argentinian friends =)
Now, generally there’s nothing wrong with seeking support from friends. If done right, it can build strong bonds.
The fine line here is if those validations become your way of life. Do they dictate what you share next? Same with your fitness goals. Are you constantly seeking approval because you just joined a gym, or just started your nutrition challenge? What is the root reason for your fitness goals. Define them clearly by asking yourself—“What do I want?”
3.) Negative Self Talk:
Our brain is over 2 million years old and over those years it’s been trained to scan for danger, and avoid certain situations. It has also been primed to make assumptions about everything! Sometimes those can be correct, but often times we use the powerful hard-drive that our brains are, to work against us.
Investments of negativity will not produce positive results. This is like accumulating mini viruses on your hard-drive. You have to be your biggest advocate. Every time you put yourself down, or bring half the energy into a situation, you are priming yourself for a much harder road ahead.
Think about what you feed the brain. Put junk in, and you’re going to get junk out. Focus on feeding it the good stuff and you’ll operate on another level.
4.) Lack of Knowledge Vs Lack of Enthusiasm
“If I just take another course in this, I’ll be ready” mentality. We’ve all seen them, those that stay in school extra long out of fear to get out in the workplace, or out of fear they are inadequate for the job.
You can stay at home searching for “best workout to burn fat” or “best diet ever”, but most often than not, you already know the answer. Avoid excess sweets & alcohol, control you portions, don’t go over your daily caloric limit, and exercise consistently.
The industry makes billions off preying on people who have a fear based mentality about their health.
Shift your focus to things that are going to move the needle; The action steps. What time and day are you going to workout? Who can you get as an accountability partner? This can be a friend, family, a trainer or even the people you take class with.
Attitude, Effort and Enthusiasm are far more important factors when it comes to getting into a consistent fitness regimen.
5.) Adversity Quotient (AQ)
AQ is refers to the ability for a person to deal with adversity in his/her life. I have never met anyone without any challenges in their life. The fact is, obstacles are a part of life. Don’t let them define who you are or deviate you from your goals. Instead learn to embrace them and label them exactly for what they are; a challenge.
In a challenge, there is the beginning phase and the end phase. You either win or your learn. You don’t lose. Ever.
6.) Define Your Success
“Define success on your own terms, achieve it by your own rules, and build a life you’re proud to live.” -– Anne Sweeney
What motivates you to get in shape? What does being in shape mean to you? What activities inspire you? What group of people inspire you? Your friends and family may have different ideas, and that’s ok.
Everyone is on a different path with different goals. You don’t have to complete a marathon to feel successful. Simply being able to walk with friends on a weekly basis may be your idea of success (and that’s probably a healthier option too :)
Believe in yourself and have the confidence to follow through with what you believe success means.
It comes down to having the confidence to be comfortable with the uncomfortable, staying on your lane and being honesty with yourself. Are you truly doing your best to achieve your own goals and are you following the right path without the needing of approval by others.
See you at the studio!
Committed to your health,